Read the Indicator Light: Are You Close Enough to Know?

Dear Marriage Investors,

Every car has one. That little dashboard light that pops on when something needs attention—a check engine signal, low tire pressure, or even just a reminder to refuel. If we’re paying attention, we catch it early. But if we ignore it? That little warning light can lead to bigger problems down the road.

Marriage works the same way.

Your spouse has emotional indicator lights—small signs that something’s off, that they’re feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or hurt. The real question is: Are you close enough to read the indicator light?

Emotional Awareness Starts with Closeness

Being emotionally in tune with your spouse doesn’t happen by accident. It requires intentional connection—quiet moments, open conversations, and a willingness to truly listen.

You can’t read the signs if you’re too distant to notice them.

• Is your spouse quieter than usual?

• Do they seem distracted or emotionally distant?

• Are they more reactive or withdrawn?

These aren’t just moods. They’re emotional indicators—signs that something beneath the surface needs care.

Asking the Right Question

When something seems "off," instead of assuming or avoiding, ask: “Are you okay?” or better yet, “What’s weighing on your heart today?”

That question isn’t about fixing—it’s about connecting. It communicates: “I see you. I care. I’m here.”

In Philippians 2:4, Paul reminds us, “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.” Marriage is a daily choice to care about what’s happening in your spouse’s heart.

Final Thought

The more emotionally close you are, the more attuned you become to each other’s indicator lights. You don’t need a crisis to start paying attention—just a heart that’s present.

📘 For more insights on strengthening emotional connection, check out our book Forever Together: Unveiling the Keys to Lasting Marriage Connection, available now on Amazon and Barnes & Noble.

Stay close. Stay aware. And when the indicator light flashes—don’t ignore it. Ask the question.

With you in the journey,
Marcellus & Valerie
Marriage Investors
www.marriageinvestors.net