What Are You Still Holding Against Your Spouse?

Dear Marriage Investors,

Let’s be honest—every marriage carries moments of disappointment. A sharp word. A forgotten promise. An unmet need. Over time, these moments can pile up, forming quiet grievances that begin to shape how we see our spouse.

Maybe there’s something you’ve been holding on to. A complaint. A wound. A moment from the past you keep replaying. If so, ask yourself this question: What grievance or complaint am I holding over my spouse?

And, more importantly, am I ready to let it go?

The Weight of Unforgiveness

Holding on to offense feels justified, especially when the hurt is real. But over time, it becomes a heavyweight—one that blocks closeness, stifles communication, and poisons connection.

In Ephesians 4:31-32, Paul urges us: “Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you… Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”

Forgiveness isn’t saying the hurt didn’t happen. It’s choosing not to let the pain define your present or destroy your future.

Why We Must Let Go

• Forgiveness is freedom. When you release resentment, you make room for healing.

• Letting go doesn’t excuse the offense. It simply refuses to let bitterness be your companion.

• Releasing the complaint reopens the door to intimacy. You can’t move forward while looking backward.

Marriage isn’t about keeping a list of wrongs. It’s about choosing love again, even when it’s hard. Choosing to forgive—not because they deserve it, but because you’re choosing freedom, peace, and grace.

Final Thought

If there’s something you’ve been holding on to, bring it before God. Ask Him to help you release it. Share your heart with your spouse—not to accuse, but to seek healing together.

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Let go. Forgive. Choose connection over complaint.

With grace for the journey,
Marcellus & Valerie
Marriage Investors
www.marriageinvestors.net